We see it happening time and time again: grossly incompetent individuals who are toxic to their teams and yet keep being promoted. They keep being given more power and more people to make miserable.
We all know it and yet nothing seems to be able to stop them. Why does this keep happening? The simple summary to the complicated answer: because every single person on their path has more to lose than to gain by stopping them... It's the good old tale of fear above courage.
A recent poll found that 68 percent of people are working longer hours since working from home. The dangers of this are clear: the World Health Organization reports that excessive working hours kills hundreds of thousands of people prematurely. It's vital to stop normalizing excessive workloads - and it starts with you setting the norms of the 'new normal'. Your heart will thank you.
I am very honored to have been invited by 'Recipes for Wellbeing' to provide a guest post on Resilience at work. I hope that my recipe 👩🍳 to 'drop the to-do list guilt' can provide you some insights and practical tips to free you up of the unattainable standards you think you need to achieve, so that you can decide what and how much you want to be busy with. And feel lighter, prouder, better!
Has the countdown to the summer holidays started?
AAaahh, the perspective of not having to follow a certain schedule, of slowing down, of doing something if you want to and not doing anything if you don't want to...
This magical feeling of freedom from deciding what YOU do with YOUR time...
This sweet opportunity to leave everything behind: the challenging project, the annoying client, the frozen budget, the unhelpful colleague, the tyrannic boss, ...
As you close your computer, you also [...]
I don't know if you've had the same experience, but during the lock down I have been bombarded with suggestions and offers to keep myself busy.
In the last months, many service providers, coaches, MOOCs and authors have offered their knowledge for free as a way to be part of the solution somehow (or to surf on the wave for self-promotion, or both, we'll never know...).
And of course I fell for it... I signed up for a 35-day course [...]
Now that we are getting used to it, it's time to recognize that this corona crisis has been a catalyst, a polarizing lens, a magnifier.
Whatever was already there somehow hanging in the air is now right on the table.
In some cases it is positive progress: I am thinking of Spain experimenting with the concept of universal income; of Canada which is making Covid relief to companies conditional to disclosing environmental impact; of French politicians, scientists & artists who [...]
Are you still hanging in there? By now, the confinement has probably turned into a new routine. You have established your alternating schedule with your partner; You have tried out a number of things to take care of your physical and mental health and a few have become new habits; You are paying extra attention to door knobs and shopping cart handles... Everything under control, right? But this is just chapter 1 of the corona story. Like a rollercoaster ride going uphill. [...]
Thank you for letting me in. Letting me inside your mailbox, inside your thoughts, inside your life.
While the whole world is busy keeping the virus out. When so many things have to be out of our lives.
While this is first and foremost a massive human tragedy,
this is also an unprecedented, universal collective opportunity. While we are all confronted with the more or less the same disruption, we react in vastly different ways... and that's our uniqueness emerging.
Today I want to talk about one of the most unnecessary taboos of the workplace - emotions.
Have you ever noticed how it is expected to be as emotionless as possible at work, in what I believe to be a collective attempt at self-hypnosis to convince ourselves that are decisions are good because they are purely rational... blink blink 😉
I mean - we are humans, we have emotions, they are present and they impact our thinking and annoy our metabolism - and denying their existence does NOT help[...]